It was September 14th, 2016. At 9:30 in the evening my ex boyfriend, Eric, brought a gun to my home in an attempted murder/suicide. When he realized that he would not be able to reach me he shot himself with his gun outside my door.
The police got to me and my now fiancé, Jay, in a flash. They were great and kept us calm and walked us through the entire process and what to expect. When the news made contact law enforcement took care of it so Jay and I would not have to have cameras shoved in our faces during an extremely difficult and emotional time.
Domestic violence and any kind of violence against a human is serious. I mainly speak about domestic violence because of my personal experience but I am well aware of other acts of violence inflicted on both men and women.
When a woman is being attacked or in a dangerous situation or uncomfortable she is often protected. People are quick to intervene when it is a woman in trouble. There have been social experiments to prove that when a woman is being abused, threatened or if a man is stealing from a woman people almost always intervene either by physically getting involved or by speaking up.
When a man is in some sort of trouble he is often over looked. If a woman is beating on a man people often ask him what he did to make her upset. People laugh it off and name call. He is often not taken seriously and if things do get violent and he is forced to physically defend himself against a woman there is outrage that he put his hands on a female.
Society often talks about women's rights but what about mens rights? What about the man's right to his safety? If a woman is stalking a man it is not seen as serious as when it is a man stalking a woman. If a man does not want to be stalked then he should be allowed to report her without the fear of judgement by society.
If a man is walking down the street and gets pick pocketed he deserves to have people step in just like they would if it were a woman having her purse snatched. If a man feels uncomfortable he should be freely allowed to speak up just like a woman is without the fear of repercussion.
Both men and women deserve to be equal. Equality means all of us are given the same freedoms and rights. We all have the right to our bodies, safety and security without being blamed for the actions of another. Men have the right to speak up just as much as women do when it comes to equality and their personal beliefs.